Welcome to San Diego Bi+ Girls! This is a private space built on a foundation of trust, validation, and shared experience. Our mission is to create a supportive, safe, and empowering environment for bisexual, pansexual, and multi-gender-attracted (bi+) women in committed partnerships.
This is a sex-positive and body-positive community! You may encounter NSFW topics and content here. Please be respectful of other people’s content and do not share it outside of our community. No body or kink shaming, please!
To protect this space, we require all members to read and agree to this Code of Conduct.
Our Community Pledge
By participating, you agree to help us create a space that is:
- Supportive: We are here to lift each other up.
- Validating: We believe you, and we believe in you.
- Confidential: This is a private space. What’s shared here, stays here.
- Inclusive: We are anti-racist, trans-inclusive, and anti-ablist.
- Respectful: We engage with kindness, even when we disagree.
1. The Zero-Tolerance Policy
Violation of the following rules will result in an immediate warning, post removal, or permanent removal from the community. These are non-negotiable.
- No Hate Speech: We have zero tolerance for racism, transphobia, homophobia, misogyny, ableism, ageism, body-shaming, or any other form of bigotry.
- No Biphobia or Monosexism: This is a space free from bi-erasure. This includes, but is not limited to:
- Telling a member they are “not really bi” (or “actually straight/lesbian”) because of their partner’s gender or for any other reason.
- Questioning the validity of bisexuality itself.
- Promoting stereotypes about bi+ people (e.g., “greedy,” “indecisive,” “unable to be monogamous”).
- No Harassment or Bullying: Do not engage in personal attacks, name-calling, intimidation, or persistent, unwanted contact.
- No Doxxing or Privacy Violations: Do not share any member’s personal information (or your partner’s) without their explicit consent. This includes real names, social media profiles, photos, or identifying details about their life.
- No Nonconsensual Intimate Content: The sharing or distribution of any intimate, private, or personally identifying media, images, or information without the explicit, affirmative consent of all individuals involved is strictly prohibited. This includes, but is not limited to, nonconsensual intimate imagery (“revenge porn”), doxxing, or sharing private conversations or data.
- No Threats or Promotion of Violence: Any incitement of violence or promotion of illegal activity will result in an immediate ban and will be reported if necessary.
- No Unsolicited Sexual Content: Do not send unsolicited graphic sexual content or send unsolicited sexual messages to other members. Consent is sexy!
Any violation of this policy will result in immediate and permanent removal from this community platform.
2. Community Guidelines for Discussion
These guidelines help us maintain a constructive and supportive atmosphere.
- Speak from Your Own Experience: Use “I” statements (e.g., “I feel…” or “In my experience…”) rather than making broad generalizations or telling others what they should feel.
- Respect Relationship Diversity: Our members are in all types of “committed partnerships.” This includes monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, married and unmarried couples, and partners of all genders. Do not judge or shame another member’s relationship structure.
- Ask Before Giving Advice: Sometimes a member just needs to vent. Before jumping in with solutions, ask: “Are you looking for advice, or just a place to share?”
- Use Content Warnings (CW): For sensitive topics (such as biphobia, mental health crises, past trauma, or detailed sexual discussions), please put a Content Warning at the top of your post. (e.g., “CW: Discussion of biphobia from family”).
- Handle Disagreements with Grace: It’s okay to disagree. It is not okay to attack. If a conversation becomes heated, focus on the idea, not the person. If you feel yourself getting angry, it is always okay to step away.
- Assume Good Intent, But Address Impact: We all make mistakes. If someone says something harmful, try to address the impact of their words calmly (e.g., “I know you may not have meant it this way, but when you said X, it felt…”). If you are called out, listen, apologize, and learn.
3. Moderation & Reporting
Your moderators are here to help, not to police. Our goal is to keep the community safe.
- See Something? Say Something: If you see a post or comment that violates this Code of Conduct, do not engage. Do not “dogpile” or try to handle it yourself.
- How to Report: Use the “Report” button on the post or send a direct message to a Moderator. All reports are 100% confidential.
- What Happens Next: The moderation team will review the report, discuss it privately, and take appropriate action. This may include:
- Removing the content.
- Issuing a private warning to the member.
- Temporarily or permanently banning the member.
A Final Word: This is your community. Your voice, your experiences, and your identity are valid and valuable. Thank you for helping us make this a space where every bi+ woman in a partnership can feel seen, heard, and celebrated.